I've had a few insights about Janey lately, probably due to thinking about her so much in trying to figure out what makes her happy or sad. One is how very, very VERY active she is. She is non-stop movement. In that way she is very much like Tony, and like my mother. She doesn't rest---she is constantly jumping, running around, asking for things, wanting to be on the go. I don't think this is her autism; I think it's just her. The medication she is taking almost always makes kids gain weight, but weight doesn't have a chance on Janey. Janey was like that from the start. When I was pregnant with her, a tough troubled pregnancy, I never worried about her being still okay, as she kicked CONSTANTLY. I used to wonder about whether she ever slept in there. My boys were not like that, and are not like that. They are more like me---prone to long stretches of not doing much active. I realize that this drive to move affects her mood. She needs to keep on the go, and when we can't, it makes her crazy. I am very glad Tony understands this. He instinctively knows when she needs to go outside, to get out of the houses, to do something with movement. It also explains a little her lack of interest in books and reading. More and more, we do think she can read, but she doesn't sit down and read, nor does Tony, although he was a great student and an Ivy League graduate. Reading is too passive for either of them. Here's a picture of Janey in her usual mode, running and jumping.
Here's hoping Janey's good times keep up for a long time, and that I keep figuring her out, a little bit at a time.