I have been trying to figure out what made her so happy these days, if only to be able to reproduce it. The only thing Tony and I have been able to figure out is she likes us to be around and giving her attention, but not forcing attention on her. On Friday, I didn't sit down and try to make her listen to books, or work on papers. I didn't suggest new shows to watch, or try to do special projects. I washed dishes while we played music, I sat next to her while she watched her shows, I talked on the phone while she did her jumping around and her songs near me. I didn't try to work, but I didn't work on her. We were just together. Tony has noticed the same thing. She doesn't want us to be doing things away from her, like on the computer or busy with some intense project, but if we are talking to her, near her, we can be kind of parallel playing with her. It also makes a big difference if we are in cheery mood ourselves. Janey is intensely tuned into tone of voice. I think it goes along with her ear for music. She might not get what we are saying, but if we sound tense or upset, she gets tense and upset.
On days like the past few, we are not scared of the future. We can picture a future where it's just the three of us---the boys with lives of their own, and Tony, Janey and I being a unit---the child we will always have. It's not a thought that fills us with dread on good days. There could be worse things than having someone to delight in the small things always with us. Of course, there are other days, as anyone who has read much on here, that I don't feel that way at all. For all I know, tomorrow could be back to one of those days. But that doesn't take away the happiness of these good days.