tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post8902402018467333921..comments2024-01-26T03:49:33.080-05:00Comments on Rarer in Girls...My Daughter with Autism: Guilt and Bus AidesSuzannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08240262747073351481noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post-56027557242434656652014-10-03T01:36:34.357-04:002014-10-03T01:36:34.357-04:00My son has Autism and is 17 years old. He's be...My son has Autism and is 17 years old. He's been in Boston Public Schools since he was 3. Things are pretty ok here but still here I am on the computer at one in the morning while he is in the next room (thick curtains, no wall between us) not going to sleep. If he keeps it up maybe I'll do the joke where I tell him maybe we need to go out and buy wood to make bunk beds for the two of us. That usually quiets things down. Here's what I am thinking:<br /><br />Are there times when Janey is left alone and she perceives that nobody is watching or listening and that no one will notice a tantrum right away? If so does she still show this high level of frustration and aggression when alone like that? Does it seem like the negative reactions she gets to her bad behaviors are somehow compelling her to do these bad behaviors? (We are all like that in certain conditions. That's why there are wars and violence and fighting in the world.) Does she mistreat her inanimate object environment in a bad way, like the way she hits the TV, but unlike with the TV with things in situations she does not think you and other people notice and will never involve you or other people?<br /><br />If she is better alone then maybe it would be good to work your way up to an hour or two alone time for her in a room that is safe and interesting where she perceives, wrongly of course, that no one is watching. Then observe it and use it as a baseline to weed out what causes her problem behavior when in the people world. <br /><br />If it is the people world setting her off and the negative reactions to her misbehaviors are compelling her to misbehave, then some real quality ABA will be able to at least build a situation where her and her therapists function well in their controlled environment. That would be a place of stability and discipline to build from. I don't think Boston public Schools ABA providers at this time are good enough, except possibly New England Center for Children and I think they don't do the one on one ABA but maybe its just that I am being misled. Its all kind of secret. <br /><br />My wife and I had Seph, the head of BPS ABA, and ABA subcontractor The May Institute under oath on the witness stand last summer. We do it alone with no lawyer. In some ways our journey is reverse of what you are living. I'll write about that somewhere later. My son is sleeping now.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04320912845164415240noreply@blogger.com