tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post3437530824416163538..comments2024-01-26T03:49:33.080-05:00Comments on Rarer in Girls...My Daughter with Autism: Unfocused AttentionSuzannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08240262747073351481noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post-29114275177517527572013-04-10T14:11:41.053-04:002013-04-10T14:11:41.053-04:00Thanks for the very kind comments! Antti, it made...Thanks for the very kind comments! Antti, it made me so happy how you said you remembered the snowy day post and how it was good news to you! It just means so much to me that there are people out there I've never met in person, but that are happy for me when things go well! "audball", that is something about your daughter knowing when homeschooling time is over and not wanting any more work! I've always thought how with my older son, who is like that with work and fun being separated, something like unschooling, just learning all the time, would be a nightmare for him. He works intensely hard when he's working, but when it's time to NOT work, he's intense with that too! Mary, I love hearing from you! It's still so amazing to me, as after reading your book all those years ago, I thought about it so much! I loved seeing your comment on the NYT article! I could see from the stats lots of people viewed the blog after seeing it---that was very, very cool!Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08240262747073351481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post-55193243917860591422013-04-10T10:33:23.244-04:002013-04-10T10:33:23.244-04:00I remember well the day reading the post about the...I remember well the day reading the post about the snowy day. It was the first day of the winter when the sun felt warm. Coming home a bit early, birds singing, having just time for a nice cup of coffee, opening the laptop and then the good news.There was even flowers on the table. Sometimes things just click to their places.<br /> It has been a relief to read how things turned out. I strongly believe in your theory. (And I do think that there was SOMETHING she wanted from the store.) <br /> What you told about snuggling was interesting, we have been doing the same thing here for a few years on the couch. Taking it easy on the couch is a father-son thing over here!<br /><br />Anttihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03698236723394477310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post-48663914922089299302013-04-09T21:08:30.088-04:002013-04-09T21:08:30.088-04:00You know, I think to some degree all children lear...You know, I think to some degree all children learn with "unfocused attention." Most knowledge is acquired, rather than learned through drill.<br /><br />As always, I am impressed by the lovig care and attention you give to this child. Mary Leonhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13751249833273087756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post-19827756665342964462013-04-09T15:34:05.813-04:002013-04-09T15:34:05.813-04:00That's fantastic that things are going so well...That's fantastic that things are going so well! Like you though, I'm always in a state of "analysis"; when things go wrong, what happened, when things go right…We never rest, right? <br /><br />I think you are really on to something about the "being within proximity" but not actually actively teaching. My girl equates learning with work…and work is what "school time" is for. Woe to the person who tries to get her to "learn" when it's after her brother returns from school (we homeschool)! <br /><br />My gal used to get irritated when I would try to take create an academic "teaching moment" during non-school hours. It was part of her rigid scheduling. She wanted to disengage that part of the brain that needed to be "on" . That part was work to her. I would see the same sort of tenseness with OT sessions when she was younger. She loved the therapist, but knew that aspects of the therapy were going to involve some uncomfortable situations. Cognitive behavior therapy has gone so much better because 1. she's older and understands that this is for her future benefit 2. she feels comfortable telling this therapist that she doesn't want to "do therapy right at this moment". They chill out and then come back to the therapy session when DD is in the right frame of mine.<br /><br />I think you have a wonderful plan in mind; you will still be teaching her, but on your terms. And her happiness is such a big part of the process. And it's very much a positive-feedback loop: you are happy, she is happy. She sees you happy and she continues to be in a good mood. Win/win for everyone :Daudballhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17499068870667071905noreply@blogger.com