tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post3319107804212188616..comments2024-01-26T03:49:33.080-05:00Comments on Rarer in Girls...My Daughter with Autism: Never compareSuzannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08240262747073351481noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post-17855257952508356242011-06-03T17:42:23.292-04:002011-06-03T17:42:23.292-04:00License Psych Tech - Thanks for sharingLicense Psych Tech - Thanks for sharingJohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14790336920616870244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post-83671652059681996232011-05-23T19:56:40.036-04:002011-05-23T19:56:40.036-04:00Sara, that sounds like a great plan. You are aski...Sara, that sounds like a great plan. You are asking some questions I've asked myself often too. Is Janey aware in any way that other kids can do many things she can't? And what does she think if she is? That's an interesting idea, that maybe she seems them as a whole different kind of people. She never seems at all aware of what other kids can or can't do. I almost hope she never does become aware like that, although of course I'd like her to be that advanced, but I hope she doesn't end up in some middle area where she knows she can't do what they do, but that doesn't help her be ABLE to do what they do, if you know what I mean. Thanks for reading!Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08240262747073351481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post-47627582574688822972011-05-22T19:05:16.017-04:002011-05-22T19:05:16.017-04:00Hi
My name is Jenna and I came across your site. ...Hi<br />My name is Jenna and I came across your site. I was born with a rare life threatening disease, and my mom has always beileved I have autism and wants me to get diagnosed. I have problems with reasoning, anxiety, and change. I get compared a lot to other kids with behavior problems even though mine aren't behavior issues and other disabled kids, by one of my life skill workers. My mom was not happy the first time she did, and if she keeps doing it, I am sure she won't be working with me that long. So I too agree that comparing us special needs to other specialneeds isn't the greatest idea.<br />www.miraclechamp.webs.comSmilen Champhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16312018180245012719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post-88504362743167670392011-05-22T16:26:28.863-04:002011-05-22T16:26:28.863-04:00you are invited to follow my blogyou are invited to follow my blogSteve Finnellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15041851737677873347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441989712918579133.post-38439495068854945522011-05-17T01:02:30.545-04:002011-05-17T01:02:30.545-04:00Agreed - nothing throws me into a downward spiral ...Agreed - nothing throws me into a downward spiral like comparing my daughter to any other child. Even in her special needs preschool the other kids seem more advanced, happier...why they LIKE TOYS for God's sake. Or can hang up their own sweatshirts. Or whatever. Mine's not autistic, but very delayed from whatever she has. "Comparison robs you of joy" as the saying goes. I remind myself only to compare her to herself - if I do that, I can see how far she's come not how far behind she is. I have to set her on a different plane. She is disadvantaged, it is not her fault, it is not fair, and it is not fixable. She is not comparing herself to others, at least not in a conscious way. Although I often wonder what she thinks when she sees her peers doing so many things she can't/doesn't know how to do. Does she think they are different kind of people? It is my sole job to let her know that she is the greatest thing in the world to me & her dad, to arm her with so much self-esteem that when the time comes when she does compare herself to others (or if others make fun of her), she will be strong enough in herself not to blame herself or feel less-than. I don't know if that's how it works, but that's my plan.sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17542230920621444188noreply@blogger.com